Will You Choose Freedom Over Hate? July 2017
This week in the US we celebrate Independence and Freedom.
Last month, I was having a late (mostly liquid) lunch/early dinner with a good friend from London. She is amazing, intelligent, creative, innovative. Quite simply, a pioneer in her field. Nothing will stop this woman from succeeding. Her commitment to her work and growth is an inspiration. She claims her place in the sun. I always recognize that I am just plain old lazy in comparison. This woman knows how to create the life she wants and how to claim it. A virtual bad ass. She is so beautiful inside and out. I'm a fan. Like most of the people I know, I am blessed to be able to call her a friend.
We drank, we ate. A friend of hers joined a while later. We drank, we ate some more. (For those who know me well... I am a fan of partaking in all kinds of epicurean delights. #IworkoutSoIcaneat #nosixpackabs)
Inevitably, as most conversations tend to flow, we all ventured into the realm of the heart. Her friend, newly married, shines with the glow from embracing the future; a future of co-creating life with her partner. Bliss. Inspiring to be around and a joy to feel. If it can happen for her it can happen for everyone. She was the tables LOVE glow lightbulb. My inner romantic gushed. The conversation assented to amazing heights. Good food, good wine, good friends. Great conversation, we had reached a great height. Until....
Let me preface this with an observation about most of the people I know. Pay attention: this means you!
For most people to reach their goal; they require a certain amount of tenacity. I recognize this in most of the successful people I know. I recognize it in myself. If I desire something, even someone, I will stay on that road until I achieve what I desire. To have a "can do" attitude, blended with a bit of persistence and a dash of passion, can take you a long way. Yet there is a downfall to having a tenacious personality. One sometimes forgets how to simply let go.
K. Back to my very fun, delicious and mostly liquid late lunch/early dinner... My dear friend in her tenacity shared yet another story about her ex. The joy at our table came crashing down. She had been deceived and abandoned in the worst way. If anyone heard her experience, they would not fault her for being angry and hurt. Yet my dear friend is a powerhouse of a person. She is tenacious. Her hurt and anger has morphed into an obsessive clawing HATE. Not a good look on such a beautiful person. I, her very intuitive friend, have over the years helped in many ways to council and assist her in letting go of the douche of an ex-husband. We've meditated, talked for hours, burnt sage and magic candles. Drank (hiccup ). She gets it. She is doing really well. Her success since she has moved on from said marriage is quite impressive. Tenacity. Once again, I remind her that her HATE is holding back new LOVE. I wax on about how she is only feeding her ex with power with such intense feelings. I theorized on how metaphysically she is only creating karma insuring that, in her hate, she would be doomed to repeat this connection with the ex again and again. (I've been drinking... I've been drinkin... hiccup)
At the table, our newlywed, love-glow-lightbulb, watched, listened, and then spoke. Wisdom flows in simplicity. Her words will now become part of my lexicon. I grabbed my phone and texted the words of enlightenment for my Londoner. I tell her "when you start feeling the HATE or find yourself talking about the ex, You have to remember these words. Say them often." The light said, "Don't let him take any more away from you." Boom! Drop the mic.
The new affirmation we created for her is "I refuse to let you take more away from me"
These words from "the light" are a gift. I tend to meditate on the word freedom often. I like how it helps me feel. In these meditations I see how I keep myself a slave or a servant to my own fears and belief systems. I see in remembering freedom, I allow for it. The most subtle of beliefs can enslave us, keeping us from opening up our hearts and minds. Accessing your inner revolutionary gives you permission to expand and receive more of what is truly already there for you.
Go within yourself to inquire.
What old story keeps you in the dogma of limitation?
Where in your life can you have the courage to move past the habits or addictions of being less than you really are?
Refuse to let yourself give your power away.
Refuse to let your power be taken away.
Be Free of fear (and hate).
Be Free to LOVE.
LOVE your way!
Create a beautiful day!
T